How to realize what you want in a relationship
The best way to realize what you want in a relationship is to start loving yourself first. This means taking better care of your body, cutting out shitty friends, and loving parts of yourself that aren’t perfect. This will also include working through any personal trauma that you have.
Avoiding victimized language
It is very common to engage in victimized language and behaviors in relationships, but avoiding these behaviors is essential to make your relationship a success. Most of us engage in one or two of these behaviors, and that doesn’t make us bad people or mean we don’t have room for improvement. If you notice yourself engaging in several of these behaviors in your relationship, commit to making the necessary changes. If you need help making the necessary changes, I recommend downloading a free 30-minute consultation on how to get over the victim mentality in relationships.
Recognizing qualities that are not deal breakers for you
There are qualities that should be considered in a romantic relationship that may not be deal breakers for you. Often, we see traits like lying or cheating as red flags that are a good indicator of trouble. These traits can make it difficult to move forward with a relationship if one of the partners exhibits them.
Try making a list of the qualities in a person that you do not consider a deal-breaker. For example, you may list traits that attract you to a person who spends a lot of time being social or being financially independent. In addition, you can consider qualities that repel you and look for those in your partner.
Recognizing qualities that are not deal breaker for you in a relationship is an important step to avoiding bad relationships. After all, no one can have everything! If you can’t have everything in a partner, you should find another one with qualities that you do value in a partner.
Communicating your needs and intentions with your partner
Identifying your primary emotional needs in a relationship is an essential part of effective communication. Everyone has needs that they want met, but not everyone wants to express those needs in the same way. Common needs include safety, validation, appreciation, devotion, and trust. You should know what behaviors will satisfy your needs and ask your partner to meet them in specific ways.
Once you know what your needs are, you can express them. Try to remember that your partner needs you just as much as you do. It’s important to remember that the most important part of any relationship is making your partner happy. While problems may be obstacles to overcome, they are not the main goal. You and your partner should focus on fulfilling your partner’s needs and working towards a closer connection.
When communicating with your partner, you should prioritize empathy, authenticity, and transparency. Try to read body language and validate your partner’s feelings. You should also use direct, clear language and keep eye contact.
Putting your passions, desires, and dreams on hold
If you’re not pursuing your passion, then you’re likely living a life that is less than authentic. By being true to your values, you’re likely attracting people who are like-minded to your lifestyle and values. While it can be daunting to follow your passion, it is important to trust your inner-self and pursue your interests to realize your goals.
If you’re passionate about something, consider creating a vision board. Using pictures, words, and phrases, create a visual representation of what you’d like. Place it somewhere visible and remind yourself of your goals on a regular basis.
When you’re in a relationship, it’s important to realize that you don’t want to sacrifice your passions for the sake of your relationship. It’s important to make time for yourself, but don’t let your passion overtake you. When you’re with your partner, it’s important to find someone who supports your passions and values.